Unapologetically Me


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"When you know yourself - you are empowered.
When you accept yourself - you are invincible."
- Tina Lifford
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In the last month or so, I have spoken a lot about the importance of finding yourself and building your self-confidence. But I haven't touched much on accepting yourself and being yourself unapologetically. As you may already know if you have read past posts, I have recently found myself, I have built my self confidence and I have became very empowered. I thought that finding myself was the ultimate goal, but I was wrong. Not only do you have to accept yourself entirely, you also have to be unapologetically you. People may misconstrued this as stubbornness or rudeness. But don't listen. And certainly don't apologise for being you. This doesn't mean you should throw your basic manners out of the window though.
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"There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful,
than a woman being unapologetically herself;
comfortable in her perfect imperfection.
To me, that is the true essence of beauty."
- Steve Maraboli
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I realised recently that for the longest time, "I'm sorry" has been by automatic response to someone for not being who they want me to be or for not doing what they want me to do. I'd apologise for not believing in the same thing that they believe in. Or for not liking something that they like. I decided that if I have to apologise for being myself around these people, then I don't want to surround myself with them anymore. I don't want to live life based on how other people want me to. I want to live life without wondering if it'd be acceptable in society's eyes. So to that I say - fuck living life according to the expectations of today's society. I say who I am. I say what I want. And no one can make me feel guilty for doing so.
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I'm a woman who will tell you if you're wrong. I'm a woman who will defend people who are being unfairly wronged. I am not a woman who will keep her mouth shut just to keep the peace. I am not a woman who will go along with the crowd because she is afraid to be different. I do not act, speak or dress to meet other people's ideals of what or who a woman should be. And I won't apologise for not letting other peoples judgement stop me from being me. I won't apologise for having a mental illness. I won't apologise for my ginger hair, my small boobs or my pale skin. I won't apologise for being sarcastic or for being brutally honest. I won't apologise for having sex, drinking, swearing like a sailor or for having tattoos with every intention of getting more. I fucking love myself - unapologetically.
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"People are always telling me that I'm not like
other girls. That I don't dress like other girls.
That I don't act like other girls. But I'm my own
person. I go to the beat of my own drum."
- Miley Cyrus
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WHY SHOULD YOU BE
UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOURSELF?
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In today's society, the word 'perfect' covers social media. The perfect make-up look. The perfect style. The perfect hair style. The perfect couple. The perfect body. The perfect blog. It's all we're exposed to. It's difficult to not feel the need to fit in. We're made to believe that there's one perfect way to look, be and act. But there isn't. You are unique. Leaders inspire and light the way for others. They didn't get where they are or who they are by fitting in with the crowd. Be brave and share who you truly are with the world. Your fearless authenticity will be what sets you apart from the rest. You will attract the respect of people who are as real and unapologetic as you.

You don't owe anything to anyone but yourself. You deserve to give yourself the same love, respect and loyalty that you give to others. Life is unpredictable. Each day is a gift. Do you really want to waste time pretending to be someone you're not? 
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Image by: Elliana Esquivel
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THE DOWN SIDES TO BEING
UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU
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Being yourself, unapologetically is an incredibly positive way to be. But it does come with a couple of down sides. Being confident enough to openly stand up for what you believe in is extremely brave, but people who don't make their beliefs as known as you do may find themselves automatically stereotyping you. Or making your opinions or beliefs your entire identity. You become open to people assuming that; because you're a feminist you dislike men, because you're gay you won't want to play CoD, because you have solid political opinions you don't want to hear anyone else's views. Falling victim to stereotyping is inevitable, you just have to make clear that no you don't hate men, you do like to play CoD and you are open and respectful of other people's opinions. 

I for one, although having solid opinions and beliefs, am open minded enough to be able to respect that not everyone shares my ideals. I will be more drawn toward the person in the room that is loudly disagreeing with me, than the person sitting in the corner agreeing with every word I say but not making a sound. 
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"Don't let other people's opinions distort
your reality. Be true to yourself. Be bold in
pursuing your dreams. Be unapologetically you!"
- Steve Maraboli
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Don't let other people decide what you do or who you are. If you do, you're no longer you, you're who somebody else wants you to be. And if you can't be yourself then you're nobody.

You're unique. Embrace it.

All my love

xx

4 comments:

  1. Love this post and how it's reminded me that I shouldn't be afraid of speaking my mind, have more confidence and accept myself for who I am. I love the attitude you have!

    Amber | www.ambambe.com

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    1. Hi Amber,

      Thank you so much! You will gain more happiness and love than you could ever imagine once you become unapologetically you.

      -SH;AL.xx

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  2. This is an amazing post, so positive! I need to have more confidence and accepting myself. I sometimes struggle with that. But I am on my weight loss journey and I am hoping to be more confident about my body. Thank you for sharing!!

    www.bournemouthgirl.wordpress.com

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    1. Hi Lauren,

      Thank you so much, I'm glad you liked my post. You are a freaking queen no matter what size you are. Aim for happiness and self love rather than society's definition of perfect.

      -SH;AL.xx

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