Flirting 101

Have you got a hot date coming up? Or are you on the hunt to find one? Well whilst you're figuring out what to wear and where to go, I've got you covered on the flirting front!


"If you want me,
it takes more than a wink,
more than a drink
and more than you think."
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THE BASICS
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Compliment
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This seems like an obvious one but that's because it works! Although they may be gorgeous, try not to stick to using that one word as a compliment. Think of something more original. Take a good hard look at your date. What do you like about them? What stands out? It can be something about their look, their style, their personality or the way they act. Personally, when I get complimented I become super awkward and embarrassed because I don't see myself how others see me. But that's how I know that they'll be secretly swooning on the inside - because I do.

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It's in the details
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In my opinion, being interested in what your date is saying, is one of the most important parts of flirting. If you remember small details about the stories they tell or the things they do, they'll be extremely flattered that you have cared enough to remember the small things. For example, a few days ago the man I am currently dating asked me if I remembered our first date. To which I said "of course!" and I recapped our date, including the fact that when I met him he was holding a can of pepsi that had been given to him by some stranger passing by. It was a small, insignificant detail but he was so flattered that I remembered. Sometimes it's the smallest things that prove how interested we are and how much we care about the other person.
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Make them laugh
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This is a basic key part of flirting. If you're laughing together naturally then that's a sure-fire sign that things are going well! Pick the right moments to make a joke or slide in a witty comment.
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Body language
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Body language speaks a thousand words! Usually certain body language comes naturally to us without even realising it. But I'll run through what it means and the impression that it gives to your date.

We typically tend to lean in towards people we like. So if you like your date, move your body forward a little, and slightly tip your head. Be sure not to lean all the way back from them, that gives the impression that you're not interested.


Avoid crossing your arms as this gives off the vibe that you're closed off, which can be really off putting to your date. If their arms are crossed, don't write them off straight away, try leaning in to make it clear that you're interested. If those arms are still crossed then don't be surprised if there's no second date.


It's a well known fact that people radiate attractiveness when they're smiling and laughing. Whether you're a man or woman, if you're genuinely happy and laughing with your friends, you'll immediately attract the attention of your desired sex.

Matching a man's body language and posture makes him feel as though you understand him. So follow his lead; if he leans in, you lean in and vice versa.
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FLIRTING WITH WOMEN
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Confidence
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We love men with confidence! And as much as it pains us to admit it, we actually do like men to take the lead from time to time. Also it doesn't hurt to initiate the conversation and flirtation every now and then.
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Be a gentleman
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Chivalry may not be popular in today's society but it definitely isn't dead. Women love it when they come across a man who still possesses gentlemanly traits. Even the smallest of acts go a long way in making her feel special. What act's of chivalry can you carry out, you ask? Well I've got that covered for you as well...

~ Hold the door open for her ~

~ Pull her seat out for her ~

~ Keep private messages and pictures, between the two of you, just that - private ~

~ Call when you say you're going to call ~

~ Send a message to make sure she got home safe ~

~ Walk her to the door because you care, not because you expect to be invited in for sex ~

~ Ask her to dance ~

~ Be nice to, and show interest, her friends ~

~ Stand up for her if she falls victim to a drunk, aggressive man. With that being said, this is the 21st century so don't let it bruise your ego if she chooses to defend herself without back up ~

~ Remember special days. There's a calendar on your phone, so it's not to much to ask ~
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FLIRTING WITH MEN
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Body language
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I know I spoke about body language before but women tend to use it a tad more when flirting:

- eye contact followed by looking away with a slight smile

- wiggling of the hips when walking

- bringing attention to lips

- stroking her thigh or neck

- raising a shoulder followed by a glance over it
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Tease him
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Make a few jokes at his expense, men like to keep the conversation playful. Although you should keep the jokes lighthearted and no when to stop; you wouldn't want to accidentally offend him would you?
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Keep him wanting more
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Now I don't mean wait 3 days to phone him or waiting a few hours before you text him back. Because I personally don't like playing those mind games. But that being said, giving men a chase does seem to work. Just don't give too much away on the first couple of dates.
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This may slightly contradict everything I have told you, but although these tips and tricks work, the biggest piece of advice I can give you is just be yourself! Don't get too wrapped up in focusing on your flirtation skills, clear your mind, be yourself and let it come naturally.

Love, Han -xo

1 comment:

  1. I'm not sure I have ever intentionally flirted with anyone in my life, but I've been accused of it. According to some dudes, anything that isn't telling them to take a flying leap counts as flirting.....

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