24 Things Women Need To Stop Apologising For


Ladies - it's time to stop apologising for doing you! In this male-dominated world, we're expected to conform to certain rules and regulations. What happens when we don't act accordingly? We're expected to apologise - and we do. Well fuck that! This isn't the 1800s and I refuse to be oppressed by misogynistic assholes. Here are 24 things that us women MUST STOP apologising for:
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Not always having your shit together
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We all have those moments where we have no clue what we're doing today, next week or in life. We're all equally confused and overwhelmed by life so don't apologise for throwing plans out the window and opting to wing it instead.
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Making the "wrong" decision
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Never apologise for making a life decision that others deem "wrong". Everyone is entitled to deciding their own fate and making their own mistakes. Don't let anybody make you feel guilty for trusting your gut when making a decision. It's your life, not theirs.
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Asking questions
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"Sorry, if you don't mind me asking..." How many times do you start your question of like that? Stop. Just ask your question - without fear, and unapologetically.
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Speaking your mind
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Would a man hesitate or apologise when he has something to say? No. So neither should we. Women have shit to say too. 
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Swearing
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Men swearing is the norm. Women swearing turns heads.
Is "Fuck you" not lady-like? Are we offending you? Well too bad.
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Being intelligent
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NEVER apologise for being smart.
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Being independent
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It is so important that you learn how to build a life for yourself - separate from a man. Sometimes, the independent life you live may intimidate people, but live it anyway.
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Being Successful
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Success is measured by you, no one else. Never apologise to those who try to undermine or undervalue your successes, because their opinions don't cut you a check.
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Being Confident
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A woman who is confident doesn't require validation from anyone - and some people do not like that. Never let anybody make you feel guilty for loving yourself.
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Your appearance
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We constantly find ourselves apologising for not wearing make-up, for not painting our nails or for having a bad hair day etc. And why? It shouldn't offend anyone so, therefore, no apologies are necessary.
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Designing our own bodies
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"Tattoos ruin your body and they're not attractive" is something that I have been told numerous times. Now I'm only going to say this once - as hard as it is for some people to believe, any tattoos, piercings, hair colouring or surgery we get is for us, not you. No woman should have to apologise for caring more about their own self love than other people's opinions.
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Morning imperfections
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Bed head. Mouth open. Morning breath. Drool.
That's the morning reality. Men need to get it out of their heads that we look like sleeping beauty, because we're not apologising.
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Lack of femininity
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BREAKING NEWS - women burp, fart, don't always cross their legs when they sit down and not all of them like wearing pretty dresses and heels.


In all seriousness, women should not have to apologise for not meeting the standards of someone's idea of femininity.
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Being too sexy or not sexy enough
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"You're too sexy" "You're not sexy enough"

We can never win in the eye of men. They all have a different image of what sexy is, so don't apologise for not meeting their impossible standards.
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Not wanting to be sexually harassed
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Just because a woman walks through a public space, that does not mean that her body is a public space. Women should never, under any circumstances, have to apologise for wearing what they want to wear. Is it really too much to ask for women's safety to be more important than men's feelings? Is it too much to ask to not be whistled at like we're dogs?
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Number of sexual partners
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I can't believe this is something we still feel we have to apologise for. Who the fuck cares whether you've had 1 sexual partner or 200.
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Loving sex
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Even in 2018 it is, for some unknown reason, still socially unacceptable for women to talk openly about sex and admit that we love it just as much as men do. 

Well, you talk about it all you want babe!
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Exploring your sexuality
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*No slut-shaming allowed here*

Women should definitely not be made to feel as though they have to apologise for exploring their bodies and their sexuality. Quite frankly, it isn't anyone's business who you choose to have sex with, how many or how often. Explore the wonders of your sexuality and have fun hun!
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Not wanting children
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This may come as a shock to some people but it is ok not to want children. Don't let anybody tell you any differently. You may be a woman but you're not put on this earth purely to carry children. Your body belongs to you and you alone.
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Your parenting decisions
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I'm not a parent and even I get pissed off when people think they can tell you "you're doing it wrong". Don't apologise because you don't dote on your kids like Susie or because you don't scream at them every 10 minutes like Karen. Just do what you think is right. They're your kids, no one else's.
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Being fussy
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"You're so fussy" Erm yeah, and?


Whether it's with food, love, your career or your friends - being fussy is a good thing because it means you know what you want and you're not going to accept anything less.
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Being overly emotional
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If you're like me, then every time you've been crying, been frustrated or scared - you've turned to whoever you're with and you have apologised for being in the state you're in. It seems to be a natural, automatic response for us but it has to stop! Nobody, man or woman, should apologise for being emotional and being vulnerable. You're human, it happens to all of us.
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Talking about periods
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Why do most men find it so bloody (no pun intended) difficult to talk about periods? Or even utter the word. We don't like them either lads but we don't have much option in the matter. They pay us a visit every month and if you've got women in your life, then you should probably grow a vagina and get used to talking about it!
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Being a woman
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You're a beautiful, strong, confident, independent woman. Never let someone tell you that you can't have or do something because you're a woman. Stay proud of being a fierce female.

So ladies, let's make a pact - no more unnecessary apologies!

Love, Han

xo 

16 comments:

  1. I love this. What it boils down to is self love. We do need to learn to be ourselves more unapologetically.

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  2. I never read so much TRUTH in one post! I feel like women are forced to live up to such an unrealistic standard and for that we have to apologize for so much its draining. Thank you for shedding light on this topic (:

    Nikki O.
    Her Daring Thoughts

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  3. So true..im "guilty" of all of those and i dont care!

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  4. I love how you included the asking questions thing. I've always had a problem with when people give you a hard time for asking questions, I find it so baffling!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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    1. Hi Julia! I know right! I've never understood why asking questions is such a big deal.

      -Han, xo

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  5. Oh this post is amazing, I love it! We should not apologise so much. Especially for speaking our minds and standing up for ourselves!
    Thank you for sharing x
    My recent post: https://lifeofellabella.blogspot.com/2018/10/how-to-stay-motivated.html

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! Thank you lovely! Never apologise for being yourself.

      Love, Han xo

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  6. I agree with some of the points you make but what a lot of other women don't seem to understand or see is that both genders are oppressed in their own way. Men are only in positions of power because they worked hard to get there. Men, from birth, are forced to repress their emotions because they're told they are not allowed to feel, that they must be strong for others constantly.

    My partner and I discuss modern feminism nearly every day and it seems that while we talk about women's issues near constantly, men's issues are laughed at and their perspectives on things often misread. Men joke so much about a variety of subjects (even tabboo ones) because that's how they learn to express themselves. They aren't allowed to show their emotions so they joke and lots of misunderstandings occur between the genders as a result.

    Don't get me wrong, this world is full of injustices, to both men and women. I just feel like we're going into an age where a lot of women are hating on men and generalizing them, based on only their own experiences.

    It saddens me that feminism of today seems to be lacking in so many areas. :( x

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    1. I completely agree with you Dax. This time last year I hid away from feminism because I associated it with 'man hating' and it wasn't until I really looked into it that I found that what it's truly about is men and women being treated as equals. I don't agree with men being oppressed or discriminated against in any way, shape or form, but since I'm not a man I don't tend to write a detailed post about it because I've never experienced it first hand. I have, however, experienced discrimination because I'm a woman, which is why I write a lot of content about that. So I'd like to say that I don't by any means think that men don't suffer injustices too, it's just that I'm not qualified to write about that.

      I hate both men and women being oppressed based on their gender and I can only hope that we can all one day be treated as complete equals; simply human beings.

      Thank you for commenting Dax, I really appreciated your opinions.

      Love, Han xo

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  7. Apologising for any / all of these things can get in the fucking bin. I have a foul mouth, I'm very independent, the whole world knows about it when I have my period bc it fucking hurts and I don't give a rats' ass. It's take me a long time to accept myself the way I am and get over other peoples' perceptions of me but I am AWESOME.

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    1. YES GIRL!! That makes me beyond happy to read! You keep being you because you're flipping amazing!

      Love, Han xo

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  8. I love this post so much! You brought togther all the things I strongly believe in, wrapped them up and presented them in an amazing way! Thank you so much for writing this!

    Taiwo | www.alifestylenerd.wordpress.com

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    1. You're so kind! Thank you so much Taiwo. I'm really glad you liked it.

      Love, Han xo

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