A How To: Balancing Love and Career Dreams



"Of this be sure:
you do not find the happy life
... you make it."
- Thomas S. Monson

I'm in love with writing/blogging and I am in love with my boyfriend. How do I balance the two? Honestly, I have no idea. I have been struggling with it for a while. When I focus on work, it takes over my life. And then my boyfriend takes up 90% of my thoughts each day which makes it hard to concentrate (not that I'm complaining). The impossibility of finding balance sounds inevitable, but I refuse to believe that balance is impossible. We all have an infinite capacity to love, which means we have room in our hearts for our passions and love. Since I wouldn't be able to live without my boyfriend or writing/blogging, I have been putting all of my focus and effort into coming up with a plan and tips and tricks to maintain a balance in my life. And what kind of blogger would I be if I didn't share them with you? Studies have actually shown that people in happy relationships make more money and get promoted more. I'm not an expert by any means, but if it works for me it might just work for you. 

Filter out the time wasters.

I'm guilty of letting myself be consumed by time wasters. Whether that be getting caught up in a week long binge on Netflix or falling into an unhealthy addiction to papa pear saga. But we need to filter those captivating time wasters out of our routines. Don't worry, I'm not suggesting you delete your Netflix account because I couldn't give up my tv shows either. I'm suggesting that you fit them into your schedule, not fit your schedule around them. I realised recently that I kept finding myself dramatically behind on my work, not because I spent some time with my boyfriend, but because I spent a ridiculous amount of time watching Grimm during, what was supposed to be, my productive hours.

Prioritise.

I'm not talking about deciding whether it's love or career that get's priority over the other, because everything that is important to you should be treated as a priority. I suggest that you create a weekly schedule. Write in your designated work times and the time you'll be spending with your other half and be sure to not let anything else seep into those times. You can then add and change anything else around your priorities. Always remember that prioritising does not mean sacrifice.

Compartmentalise.

Keep your love life and your career completely separate. Whilst working, make sure that you stay focused and productive by not letting your love life distract you. Vice versa, don't let work become a distraction whilst you're spending quality time with your other half.

Be sure to leave any feedback or tips of your own in the comments section below.

Love, Han. xo

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