#AskHan : my boyfriend says he loves me but he's cheated on me twice. Should I forgive and forget?

cheating boyfriend

Short answer - no, you shouldn't forget. I believe that it's better to have nobody than to have someone who is half there, or doesn't want to be there. I know he says he loves you, and maybe he believes that he does, but when you truly love someone, you do everything in your power to make sure that you don't hurt them. Respect, honesty, loyalty and consideration are 4 of the main foundations that every loving relationship should be built upon. He dismissed all four of those when he decided to cheat on you in the first place. Cheating is a choice, not a mistake. Which means even if you choose to forgive him, you could never forget his betrayal because one lie is enough to question all truths.

Ask yourself: do you trust him with all of your heart? Do you believe that his eyes will never wonder again? Does he truly deserve you? Can you do better? And is this love worth the hurt he has caused?

Most people cheat because they're paying more attention to what they're missing rather than what they have. I don't want what he did to destroy your outlook on love or your future relationships. You deserve a man who knows what he has, and loves you so much that he will never do anything to jeapordise the magic you have.

I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world.

Love, Han

xo

8 comments:

  1. I can never trust or forgive a cheat. If they don’t feel they have everything they need with you, then they’re not the one for you. Unfortunately been caught out too many times...

    Melanie || www.melaniewithanie.com x

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    1. I am the exact same Melanie! If they cheat on me there's no second chances given.

      Love, Han. xo

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  2. Totally agree with this, its terrible for someone to betray your trust and if you can’t trust someone you’d live in paranoia which is not fair! If they loved you they wouldn’t do that but I understand every relationship is unique x

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    1. I'm glad you agree with my advice Chloe. I know I could never live with someone who has cheated on me, I'd never be able to trust them again.

      Thank you for commenting lovely.

      Love, Han. xo

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  3. Great post with great advice. Once trust is broken, it's nearly impossible to get it back. Learn from the lesson and move on!

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    1. Thank you Jess! I completely agree. Thank you for commenting.

      Love, Han. xo

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  4. I love the idea behind this series!
    Brooke x
    www.brooke-pearson.co.uk

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